The way I see forgiveness is. My abuser is dead so I can’t get justice through the courts. The forgiveness of myself has been the hardest as thing to do as I thought I was to blame. This is wrong as I now know that I am not to blame.
The forgiveness part is not to excuse his actions but to free myself of anger and shame. By forgiving him I’m writing a new chapter in my life and breaking the chains that he bound me in. I’ll never forget but the pain is lessened by releasing the anger and shame.
By forgiving him I’m able to forgive myself. By forgiving myself I break the shackles of abuse.